Dr. Marc Hollender, from Vanderbilt University, in 1981 for Family Weekly, talked about women wanting a non-sexual hug. The safety, comfort and love women receive sends them--not a direct quote. So then fast forward to Youtube.com and Free Hugs, which is more or less a campaign. It started out to help a man recover after his grandmother died. He was, to put it mildly, bummed out.

So he makes a manly sign that spells out Free Hugs and goes to a public place, and his first hug is from a short granny type woman with a head scarf, who caresses his face, and he gets on his knees so she can hug him because he is tall, and it doesn't last long enough. There are more hugs and tension and resolution of the tension and more hugs during a beautiful song by Sick Puppies.

So about 30 million people have watched this, and I don't see signs outside in public places with more people giving away hugs where I live. I made a few signs and gave them away to people I thought might do this activity. It might be interesting to see if I get arrested or cited or given a warning by having a sign like that one day, but right now I am too chicken. Of course, I might just get hugs and it might all work out, one day.

So here is a man giving and getting what women want. Women want hugs. Maybe more than anything else women want hugs. But never before has there been someone with a sign saying "Free Hugs" because the big sign for free hugs is open arms. And what would happen if Zorro the Greek (or it might very well be Zorba) held his arms open and everyone wanted to dance instead of hug? But people who want a hug open their arms. And who says Zorro is anything but Greek? Without the whip, he might get hugs, too. Maybe with more cheerful clothing and a smile, and a prop like a sign or stuffed toy, more people can be hug-able?

So what would be the big advantage of getting the hugs each one of us decides we need? Could it be that we talk more if we are silent, or talk less if we are noisy? Could it be that there is less crime, road rage, domestic violence, addictions, and the Universe becomes happy? What if there is a new exercise called, "Hug yourself thin"? Or what if we have a new yoga called, "Hug Yoga," instead of "Hot Yoga?" I wonder what kind of yoga positions huggers would assume?

A writer named Ethel Barrett wrote somewhere, "There are so many things about yourself you cannot explain to other people. Even those closest to you. Even people your own age. You can talk, and talk and TALK, but there is no use in talking and there is no end in talking, for there is no end of things in the heart." Maybe that is part of the hugging mystique.

Where did I put that Free Hugs sign? Hmmm, I wonder when someone will come up with a Free Kisses sign?



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